SELF-SABOTAGE. IS IT HOLDING YOU BACK?

Do you... 

  • Put up a mental wall any time you have to do something that feels a little hard? Think losing that last kg (or 5), saving up for that holiday you desperately want, going for that career that you've always dreamt of... 
  • Give up waaaaaaay to easily? Ah, your fav work out leggings are dirty!! It's ok, you'll go tomorrow. That latte from the best cafe was calling your name, you couldn't start the day without it. 
  • You give into temptation that you swore would be a reward. You deserve it! You know you do... The baby made you do it! 
  • You always leave things until "tomorrow" funny how long tomorrow drags on isn't it?

Any of these seem familiar? Perhaps your behaviours are getting in the way of your best intentions ... If you answered yes to the above, I'd say that you're potentially your own worst enemy!

If the only thing standing in front of your dreams is you, then now is the time to step aside girlfriend. Forget the excuses and the self-sabotage. Here are the things that I do when I need to give myself that much needed pep talk to get back on track: 

PLAN, PLAN, PLAN

Yep, it's the old 'fail to plan is planning to fail' but it really is true and potentially one of the most crucial steps that you can make when getting back in control. Think about what your goal is. Then break it down. What do you need to do to achieve this goal? Trying to lose weight? Meal planning and exercise is key so classes and meal prep would be two things that you need to get a handle on. 

Tip: If you need to - schedule things into your diary so that you make them a priority. Add supermarket and make an actual time. Go to the supermarket first thing with a planned list of meals you need to make for the week ahead - even better, order online to avoid distractions! 

GET AN ACCOUNTABILITY COACH

Whether that is yourself or a buddy. It doesn't matter, you just need to have a fairly real conversation with yourself on what would work best for you. There's no point just writing things down if you know it won't encourage you to keep your plans. Book in exercise classes with your bestie. Share gratitude photo's with your partner. Use a gym that charges you if you miss a class. 

SIMPLE, REAL, ACHIEVABLE - IT'S ALL ABOUT THE GOALS

SMART goal setting is key. Simple, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time specific. Follow this and you'll be much closer to hitting those goals. 

Tip: write down your goals and put them somewhere you can see every day. 

IT'S NOT ALL OR NOTHING

If you lay out hugely ambitious goals that you put strict rules around, you are setting yourself up to fail. Saying that you will go running 5 days a week when you're not even walking 2,000 steps a day isn't that smart - then when you don't achieve your goals throwing in the towel because there is not point. Start small. Make baby steps towards your goals and if you don't do it perfectly, don't beat yourself up, just start again straight away (not tomorrow!!). 

BE KIND

You need to have a belief in yourself because if you don't believe in you then yo won't succeed. Your inner voice needs to be telling you the right things if you want to move forward. Mindset is everything. It's what will get you up in the morning. Stop you from overspending. Walk that extra step. Say no to that bag of crisps. You can totally do this. 

Tip: use an affirmation and say it to yourself until you change that mean voice that is telling you that you can't do it. Re-train the brain!